...and I'm just not that into you either...

I went on another first date last night and to be honest, it was also the last date.  Now to be fair, he was a perfect gentleman and the conversation was engaging - well, for most of the evening.  However, I knew from the moment he said hello that it just wouldn't work.  We met through an internet dating site - as I'm being open to broadening my opportunities in meeting new men, blah, blah, blah - and I liked our written communication with each other and even his pictures, he looked good and I was excited to meet him.


I was one block away from where we were going to meet and as I waited for the crosswalk sign to turn green, I heard the cathedral bell sound as the clock struck 8...dooom, dooom, dooom.  I remember wondering if this was a sign and if it was, sounded like the sign right before a terrible fate revealed itself.  But I stepped forward and saw him waiting for me outside.  And to my pleasant surprise he still looked good - well-dressed, nice height and the messenger bag and scarf look that I can appreciate.  I smiled, moved forward, said hello and then he spoke…

Now I’m open-minded but the minute he said hello I just knew it wasn’t going to work – I was immediately turned off or should I say not immediately turned on. Whichever it was, it just wasn’t happening for me. But then I flashed back a scene in the movie “He’s Just Not that Into You”, where the guy is describing the girl at the bar giving all her attention to the handsome guy who’s clearly “not into her” and ignoring the quieter guy on her other side who would give her all the attention she wants and is into her and think, I should give this a try.

And I did and my conclusion is my first instinct was right.  Now I’m not saying for single ladies to continue giving attention to the guy that is “just not that into you” but I am saying that women know yourselves, trust your instincts and don’t settle.  If you’re “just not that into him”, it’s okay and no, we don’t have to keep giving them chances especially if chemistry is something important to you – it is for me!

So I will continue to go on many more first dates until I have my last first date with the guy that “had me at hello”.

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